I remember when I used to be SO SAD all the time, I would look up articles on how to be happier but they all gave very generic, boring answers. “Take a warm bath” or “go for a walk” or the worst one yet, “smile because it helps to improve your mood.”
True, these were things that could help you feel better, but sometimes these just aren’t good enough. There was a point in my life where I just thought to myself, “Okay look, you can’t be like this forever, you have to get up and do something about it.” And so I did. And over time, I really felt myself feeling happier and happier.
I know what it’s like to be so tired and sad even after doing nothing. And I know what it’s like to get out of that. So I decided to write down and make a compilation of all the things that I feel really helped me with this.
1. Feng Shui
Your surroundings tend to absorb your energy. If you’re constantly sad in your room, chances are everything around you has absorbed that energy. This causes you to feel down when you’re in your living area. Change things up. Redecorate you room. Move things around. Move your bed position, change the curtains, paint your walls a different colour, hang up a wall art or if you have one, rearrange it. Get some flowers (lilies smell very nice).
2. Avoid sad things
I know this seems like the obvious answer but a lot of sad people tend to be attracted to sad things. I personally avoid sad songs and sad movies to avoid further lowering my mood. Instead, I look up happy movies or happy TV shows.
Here are some of my favourite Friends episodes:
- S03E01 The One With The Princess Leia Fantasy
- S03E02 The One Where No One’s Ready
- S07E10 The One With The Holiday Armadillo
- S07E23 The One With Monica and Chandlers Wedding, Part One
- S08E12 The One Where Joey Dates Rachel
- S09E05 The One With Phoebe’s Birthday Dinner
- S10E08 The One With The Late Thanksgiving
Other light and funny shows worth watching:
- Bob’s Burgers (my personal fav!)
- Brooklyn 99
- The Good Place
- The Inbetweeners
3. Happy songs
Music and rhythm can really play a huge part in improving your mood. Here are my happy songs playlist from Spotify:
4. Keep yourself active
This one was very difficult for me. When you’re sad all you want to do is lay in bed all day. But if you just sit alone in your room you’re only going to fester and make it worse. No matter how difficult it is, get up and do something. You don’t have to go far, you can start by rearranging your room. Find any activities going on. Go to gigs, art galleries, go to pasar malam if there’s nothing else.
I don’t know how this works but believe it or not, being under the sun always boosts my mood. If I could keep sunlight in a jar to use when I need it, I would. This might have something to do with Vitamin D. Go to the beach or the park or open the blinds (but I strongly recommend getting out of your room).
You’ve probably heard this one before. So have I, it was when I was really sad that a friend of mine told me to drink tea. I was so desperate that I actually went for it. And it worked almost magically! Now every time I feel sad, I drink tea and so far, it has yet to disappoint. This tea in particular:
BOH’s Hibiscus tea that always makes me feel a little better
7. Change your wardrobe
The way you dress often helps to change your mood, even if it’s just by a little bit. Wear warm colours, show some skin, dress and walk CONFIDENTLY!
Surround yourself with things that smell good to you. Light some candles, buy some lilies. Get a new shower gel. Bath and Body Works usually have nice offers.
9. Treat yo’ self
Whether it’s shopping or a good meal, spend a little extra on yourself more than you usually would (provided you can afford it!).
This one usually takes a couple of sessions before it starts to work but the sessions can be as little as 10 minutes. It helps to calm you and focus on your thoughts. Try the app headspace!
11. Social media detox
This can be a little tough for some people so maybe start with small goals like no phone for 1 hour. As mentioned before, the objects around you tend to absorb your energy. So if your phone has absorbed your sadness, being around it too much won’t be good. Sometimes I delete social media apps or turn my phone off for a whole week (assuming I have no important commitments, of course!.
12. Have a belief system
Whether it’s god or astrology. Have something to keep you occupied. One of my beliefs is the healing power of crystals. Amethysts tend to be good for sadness!
13. No bad thoughts!
Avoid negative thoughts. Stop talking about other people. If you feel that somebody has negative tweets/posts or if somebodys’ lifestyle is making you feel bad about yourself, avoid them, mute them. If the people around you tend to be negative, leave. Dont be afraid to distance yourself from people who you know aren’t good for you. You don’t have to cut yourself off completely, its not healthy to be in bad terms. But know when to keep yourself away.
14. Good friends
Good friends are so important. There was one week where things were so bad and everyday I found a friend who would see me after class to keep me active and distracted. I am so grateful for them 💕
If all else fails, if you’re still feeling very sad whether or not you have a reason behind the sadness and you feel like you cant go on feeling like this, please, please reach out and get medical help!
That’s all the tips i have for now! I hope some of you find these useful!
Lots of love,