“No matter how many plans you make or how much in control you are, life is always winging it.” ~Carroll Bryant
About 5 years ago, I thought I had my whole high school and university plans all laid out for me. I planned to graduate high school with flying colours and study in England for university. I thought that I would be able to have the opportunity to bring my plans to life. However, life has its own plans for me by derailing my own. Initially, that was a tough pill to swallow because I am not known to be a flexible person but eventually, it taught me that plans change all the time and soon, I learnt my lesson.
When my plans were derailed, I changed. I came to realise that my initial plans were not what I really wanted. When I was in the early years of high school, the only thing that I ever knew was how to bury my head in books, joining clubs and being a prefect student, just so that I could boost my CV for university applications. That being said, when things changed for me, all those things that I once did were not really my priority anymore. At that moment, I realised that when I look back at my high school days, I would not want to just remember me studying and studying, never really having what they call a “life”. I thought to myself at the time,”Wow, I really wish my high school life was like how movies depicted high school lives to be. Those people were not the brightest but they had created valuable memories and forged friendships that would last a lifetime. I don’t want to regret anything in life.” Hence, I set out on a journey to execute my plan. I became more outgoing, not that I wasn’t before, but I actually took the effort to get to know more people and eventually, I found a group of friends that I really connected well with, and my plan was to make memorable memories with them so that I could always remember them whenever I look back. And that I did. The later years of high school were really the best time of my life. I had fun, I made mistakes, I learnt from them and grew up.
That was my story as to how I came to realise that it’s okay for plans to change because all you need to do is just to adapt and work around your current situation. It’s good to have plans for the future, but you have to realise that you have to be flexible as well, because life tends to derail itself from the tracks that were set out for them. Besides this, I would just also like to remind you that you should try your best every day to live your life to the fullest so that when you are on your death bed, you will hardly have any regrets. It’s good to have an idea of what you want to do and have your plans written out in your mind. But sometimes, it’s good to live spontaneously. Because sometimes the best moments come from unplanned moments. Sometimes, you just have to close your eyes and take a leap of faith, letting life and destiny take its course naturally. A friend of mine once told me that it’s better to regret having done certain things like confessing to your crush or getting someone’s number than to regret not doing at all. The words “If Only” are truly the saddest words of all because the opportunity was flashing right in front of your eyes and you just made the decision to close your eyes and ignore the flashing lights.
Thus, from now on, just push yourself a little each day to do something that you’ve never done before. Only then will you realise that there are endless possibilities when you step out of your comfort zone, never letting the word ‘regret’ cross your mind.
Source:Woman turning around on green fields.