*coughs* Sorry, but I think I’m sick of it.
To be heteronormative is to assume that heterosexuality is a given in terms of sexuality, instead of many other possibilities – let’s say, lesbians and gays. A heteronormative assumption is to assume that a boy will gr0w up to be a man who will marry a woman, or vice versa. A heteronormative practice will be to write books where the characters only portray heterosexuality. A heteronormative pattern is when the media – TV shows, movies, radios, and music etc. – outlines the story with the assumption that every character is very much straight.
This week, let us talk about the assumption that our society is only filled with straight people; there is no other variety; and the annoying way that the media keeps trying to shove it down our throats. Let’s make one thing clear, there is nothing wrong with being straight, like you do you, my friend – not being heterophobic (although heterophobic isn’t even a thing and you need to get off your high horse) – but there is definitely something wrong with assuming that everyone is straight and nothing else.
The LGBTQ+ community is right there, whether you want to admit it or not. But then again, you probably don’t even know about it because there is such a lack of representation, especially in pop culture, that it hurts me so deep in my soul.
Yes, there are certainly a lot more LGBTQ portrayals in pop culture. I’ll admit that. For example, there’s Lexa in The 100, Root in Person of Interest, Maya in Pretty Little Liars, Jack in The Fosters, Edward in House of Cards, Kurt in Glee, and Blaine in Glee etc. But if you take a closer look, you might notice a trend here. Yep, that is right, most of these characters are dead. Nevertheless, that’s not what this article about – we can talk about dead LGBT characters in the future.
The thing is, even with the increasing representations of LGBTQ portrayals in pop culture, we are still being forced to accept that heterosexuality is the way to go. I mean, just take a look at any and every TV show and movie that we see every day – in each and every one of them, the main relationship is always the man and the woman.
Now, there are some really beautiful fictional couples out there, like Clark and Louis, Jack and Rose, Bruce and Selina, Steve and Peggy, and Bucky and Natasha etc. But there is also a large amount of unhealthy fictional straight couples out there that we are supposed to accept and love just because they are straight, such as:
Kara and Mon-El, Supergirl
I’ll be the first to admit that it is really, really nice to see Chris Wood’s face like…all the time. But the fact that he keeps portraying such crappy characters is really getting on my nerves. And the fact all Mon-El ever does is lie, manipulate, and insult Kara is just irritating and an all-time insult to a feminist like Kara. And yet, he still ended up with her, because why? He’s a handsome white man. Honestly, there were many moments in which Kara has shown that she is definitely not straight and at least bisexual, but she still chose Mon-El instead, because y’all, heterosexuals all around.
Christian and Anastasia, Fifty Shades trilogy
Do not even get me started on the entire toxicity of this whole relationship that has been glorified so out of proportions that it might as well be on Pluto. Christian Grey is an egotistical stalking abusive possessive jealous white male sociopath who has done nothing but pretty much ruined Anastasia’s life, and I stand by that. But in the end, Anastasia still fell for him, because he’s a straight white male who just happens to look handsome, nevermind the fact that he should be in jail for what he did.
Finn and Rachel, Glee
I know a lot of you who watch Glee is going to disagree with me on this, but seriously. I love Cory Monteith, I really do, and I still cry every 13th of July because I cannot believe that he’s actually gone. But Finn Hudson has to be one of the most irritating fictional characters I have ever seen in my life. Finn and Rachel are always fighting – always – and they are always jealous, angry, possessive, and obssessed with one another. If anything, they shouldn’t even have been together in the first place!
Aria and Ezra, Pretty Little Liars
Listen to me, no. Ezra Fitz should be in jail, period.
Olivia and Fitz, Scandal
Fitzgerald Grant the Third is, hands down, the worst fictional American President ever portrayed on television. In addition to that, his very presence always manages to turn Olivia Fitz, a strong independent black woman, into a puddle of weakling, which she definitely is not. He’s a cheater – he cheats on his wife with Olivia, and yet he has not left his wife and let her be free. He also manages to pit every woman in his life against one another, because he is, presumably, the hottest white guy that every woman in this show has ever met. Let me tell you one thing, Fitz is many things but attractive.
Look, like I said, it’s true that there is more LGBTQ+ representation in the media right now than there has ever been. But none of this mean anything if we only get one representation in each TV show and movie we watch. That is simply unrealistic and not true. Not everyone is straight, just like not everyone is gay, but we definitely need more LGBTQ+, and less of man and woman swapping spit for no reason at all but the fact that they are none other than a man and a woman.
Also, I don’t know if you’ve heard of this, but a man and a woman can have a relationship without being romantic at all. It’s called friendship.